tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post4898300767457194166..comments2023-11-03T04:19:29.065-07:00Comments on Prowling with Kat: ConnectionKathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12391347384362000456noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-69615356919882132222012-09-20T01:50:38.669-07:002012-09-20T01:50:38.669-07:00funny when i joined am i was cavalier, i thought i...funny when i joined am i was cavalier, i thought i could do it without a connection, fun, fast, nsa sex, that's what i wanted, what i needed, right? who the hell was i kidding? you are talking about a gal that makes a connection with the grocery clerk so much so that they show me pictures of their grandkids and press a small birthday card into my hands for my kids every year. i admit that i like and crave that connection, even if it's a simple text or a quick note on my messenger wall. what's difficult, similar to your world with JJ is when the one i want the most, my JJ if you will goes mia. often, the rational gal in me knows it's his way of focusing and compartmentalizing but the emotional and connected gal in me suffers a bit each time. but who do i talk to about it? no one, i know the rules or those rules and i want to be able to say a year from now that he is still my "W" or my "JJ". i have to figure out the balance as it seems when i reveal how attached and emotionally connected i am he goes dark but its as if he has this uncanny sense that i need at least a "hey" right when i am either going to meet someone new, and local (as he is 3000 miles away) and i am drawn to him. he will never tell me not to seek another or find a release beside him. we are too old, too established in our real lives, but in reality, if he would just tell me that he wanted me, missed me, couldn't wait to see me...i would forego all others, deal with the lack of play time with hubby and wait until he and i saw one another again. that's the connection i feel with him. jokes on me because i can never tell him and he will never tell me to tell him. and yet, like you miss kat, i am not prepared to say goodbye.mckenzienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-53762205641902913872011-07-19T23:21:32.224-07:002011-07-19T23:21:32.224-07:00Care to share who the man is who provides all this...Care to share who the man is who provides all this to you? Inquiring minds, you know....<br /><br />MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-89508214246727937452011-07-19T14:09:34.099-07:002011-07-19T14:09:34.099-07:00HEDONE - Thanks. We are definittely on the same p...HEDONE - Thanks. We are <i>definittely</i> on the same page with this. <br /><br />SomewhereMan - You are so funny, you know that? And you <i>do</i> matter to <i>me</i>, you goof. ;-pKathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12391347384362000456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-26703309380434149232011-07-19T13:19:19.611-07:002011-07-19T13:19:19.611-07:00I am glad I make you feel that way! Awwww.
Oh w...I am glad I make you feel that way! Awwww.<br /><br /><br />Oh wait... you're not talking about me... never mind. :)<br /><br />Actually, that is the drug I need. Feeling like I matter again. Not the sex.SomewhereManhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11037892170086827761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-67723070492369923152011-07-19T12:59:13.244-07:002011-07-19T12:59:13.244-07:00"...someone to invest in you in all of those ..."...someone to invest in you in all of those ways - emotionally/spiritually, intellectually, and physically - <b>just for the pure joy and pleasure of that connection</b>, without a promise or an expectation of more."<br /><br />This is as good as it gets. That's THE connection. And time and time again, we've seen that marriage doesn't give you that. <br /><br />Congrats and enjoy it...that's all, just enjoy.<br /><br />-HAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com