tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post7575187363534841378..comments2023-11-03T04:19:29.065-07:00Comments on Prowling with Kat: Two Months? Really?Kathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12391347384362000456noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-6643677379964689372013-11-12T15:25:52.008-08:002013-11-12T15:25:52.008-08:00I've missed you as well my friend.
There is...I've missed you as well my friend. <br /><br />There is a substantial difference between prowling for fun and prowling for a connection. I have several blogger friends in the same situation, and some whoe are in it but don't know it yet. You have to be more careful because that connection makes it more real for you and much more threatening for your husband. <br /><br />if my wife cheated on me (and i didn't go into the flying pig business)for love that's a different issue that cheating for sex. The emotional drain is different, the end game is different, and everyone is more likely to get hurt.<br /><br />As for holding the keys to your own cage? Well,we all like to think that, but as we comply to other's wishes we give them more and more of that key. We cede control through expectations, unspoken promises, and outright commitments. Eventually we feel as if they have all the control and we have to wrench the key back from their grasp.<br /><br />The challenge, on the surface, is to get hubby to spice up the sex life, the depper issue may be unsolvable, a fundamental difference in how the two of you value and pursue sexual intimacy. <br /><br />That's a hard one to fix.Advizor54https://www.blogger.com/profile/02818587592229617693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-20098840345909917672013-11-12T14:50:13.045-08:002013-11-12T14:50:13.045-08:00Anon - I think we definitely understand each other...Anon - I think we definitely understand each other. <br /><br />If I pick the lock on your cage will you pick the lock on mine? ;-)Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12391347384362000456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-29639836307910685922013-11-12T14:33:24.846-08:002013-11-12T14:33:24.846-08:00Living in a situation where you are heavily scruti...Living in a situation where you are heavily scrutinized, can be exhausting. As a now former prowler, my actions to this day are always watched with a keen eye. This cage is closing in.....I need an escape.<br />(I am in SoCal...but I was inside this cage)<br /><br />To our eventual freedom.<br />Cheers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-88992395120494815182013-11-12T13:48:31.596-08:002013-11-12T13:48:31.596-08:00Anon-- I was just in so Cal a few weeks ago. Where...Anon-- I was just in so Cal a few weeks ago. Where we YOU?Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12391347384362000456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-66038853913211145552013-11-12T13:09:50.123-08:002013-11-12T13:09:50.123-08:00I always knew what to do with a naughty Kat .... I...I always knew what to do with a naughty Kat .... I show you if you come south again ....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-79059933710623304502013-11-12T11:23:47.076-08:002013-11-12T11:23:47.076-08:00Yeah, that's the thing, isn't it? When th...Yeah, that's the thing, isn't it? When the real agenda is "connection" more than simple physical indulgence, the screening rules have to change and the time investment profile is dramatically different. <br /><br />It will be fascinating to see how you resolve it all. I, for one, really hope you continue to share.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-26576723916301803282013-11-12T10:16:07.363-08:002013-11-12T10:16:07.363-08:00Tom- Thanks! I missed you, too. I just read your ...Tom- Thanks! I missed you, too. I just read your FFF joke, by the way. Very funny. :-)<br /><br />Max - Thanks for the encouragement. You're pretty wonderful. Too bad you live on the wrong coast.<br /><br />Anon - Awwww. I'm so sorry I worried you. That was very naughty of me. Naughty, naughty, naughty. I'm sure you know what to do with a naughty girl. ;-)<br /><br />Lust for love - I agree. Too much of anything is never good, and anything can become monotonous.There has to be a middle ground, though, between total boredom and "lighting my panties on fire." The extremes are lousy.<br /><br />Joe InRTP - You're very perceptive. I do hold the key to my own cage, don't I? There are several causes of this latest exile, as you put it. Yes, I've been exceptionally busy, but I've been under heavy scrutiny at home. It's hard for me to do anything that isn't noticed. I could find a way around that, of course, but I also really don't want to hurt Hubby. He's particularly sensitive these days. And there's something else....I'm simply not in the mood for an emotionless roll in the hay. I want more. I want a real connection. That's not so easy to find.<br /><br />Southwest Swinger - Thank you. I appreciate the kind thought. :-)<br /><br />Friendly Nerd - Nooooooo. I tried to come to an arrangement with Hubby but he has been adamantly opposed to my proposals. <br /><br />Pam P - You're so sweet. Thank you! :-)Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12391347384362000456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-21355119720879253272013-11-12T09:55:14.141-08:002013-11-12T09:55:14.141-08:00<3 you Miss Kat!<3 you Miss Kat!Pam Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02110586882062517489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-86301698366297007472013-11-12T08:13:56.654-08:002013-11-12T08:13:56.654-08:00I totally understand the grey.
I guess I'm co...I totally understand the grey.<br /><br />I guess I'm confused... I thought you had an arrangement with Hubby?Friendly Nerdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01585136289056655094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-89254562594435099712013-11-12T06:13:00.676-08:002013-11-12T06:13:00.676-08:00Been checking everyday. glad to see you today.Been checking everyday. glad to see you today.Southern Swingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01801001042327770765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-73321946442348322152013-11-12T05:04:03.516-08:002013-11-12T05:04:03.516-08:00So I know your current fidelity isn't for lack...So I know your current fidelity isn't for lack of partner options. Are you forcing this on yourself? Is it simply lack of time, or are you self-enforcing a deal with your husband?<br /><br />As a guy, our perspective is different. Without the droves of possible partners, simple supply and demand occasionally force us in to dry spells where the limiting factor is the availability of a partner you have the chemistry and energy with to explore further.<br /><br />What's driving your exile? Are you simply too busy? While I sympathize with the caged animal metaphor, you've practically got the key to the cage. You can simply sneak out when you want to. You've been successful keeping it hidden before, what's stopping you now?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-5753228510634108232013-11-12T01:36:51.379-08:002013-11-12T01:36:51.379-08:00Glad to have you back. When doing something repeat...Glad to have you back. When doing something repeatedly after a while, whether it is sticking with a person or switching partners can cause interest to wane. lust for lovehttp://luv2sex.infonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-45268314969822488582013-11-11T22:59:43.704-08:002013-11-11T22:59:43.704-08:00Glad to hear you are save and sound - I was a litt...Glad to hear you are save and sound - I was a little worried .... JAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-21759682219473962782013-11-11T19:44:51.615-08:002013-11-11T19:44:51.615-08:00Of course we're still here. life gets busy, bu...Of course we're still here. life gets busy, but no, that's no way to live. Don't give up - get up and pace. You'll be hunting before you know it. :-)Maxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02335669036476740866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-24999352526849390702013-11-11T17:38:55.438-08:002013-11-11T17:38:55.438-08:00Welcome back! We missed you!Welcome back! We missed you!Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05543886918731791279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-8432800393543709872013-11-11T15:28:18.815-08:002013-11-11T15:28:18.815-08:00Thanks, Ryan. And thank you for reaching out to m...Thanks, Ryan. And thank you for reaching out to me which I was away. Sometimes just knowing a lifeline is there is enough. :-)Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12391347384362000456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-42978624190777355002013-11-11T15:25:21.047-08:002013-11-11T15:25:21.047-08:00I guess this thought came to my mind:
"I kno...I guess this thought came to my mind:<br /><br />"I know why the caged bird sings, ah me,<br /> When his wing is bruised and his bosom sore,<br /> When he beats his bars and would be free;<br /> It is not a carol of joy or glee,<br /> But a prayer that he sends from his heart's deep core,<br /> But a plea, that upward to Heaven he flings –<br /> I know why the caged bird sings."<br /><br />Hoping soon you can sing a song of freedom and joy. But for now good to hear from you, truly!<br /><br />Take Care,<br /><br />RRyan Beaumonthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00852223091640759071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-5874654992371625312013-11-11T14:34:50.117-08:002013-11-11T14:34:50.117-08:00Hi Mike --
I don't think I could ever abando...Hi Mike -- <br />I don't think I could ever abandon PWK. It has been too much a part of my life. Thanks for the empathy, too. You're right. It sucks.Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12391347384362000456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2524305586058177527.post-41850995686153388762013-11-11T14:27:02.349-08:002013-11-11T14:27:02.349-08:00Finally! I was beginning to think you abandoned t...Finally! I was beginning to think you abandoned this blog. Glad to see you're still out there. I'm a guy and I know exactly how you feel about trying to be good for someone else, all while you slowly start to fade away inside. it sucks.Mikenoreply@blogger.com