For those that are new, Saturday Serial is my little experiment. I'm drawing on events from my own life and weaving them into an ongoing story.
At this point we have three characters introduced, Danny (me), Rachel (my wife) and Becka. For those that want to refresh their memory, the last chapter was A New World. Those that are new may want to start at the beginning with Morning Heartache.
Enjoy,
--DauntlessD
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Pulling into a parking space the old Datsun pickup sputters to a stop. Danny looks out the window toward the building and his eyes are drawn to the sign. Anne's Saloon - Live Music. People are milling about and exiting their vehicles. Their boisterous laughter sounds muffled and distant from inside the cab. Reaching out Danny grabs the handle to open the door and stops confronted with a wash of anxiety.
Bowing his head for a moment he then raises his eyes and looks out the window again. An inner struggle takes place between knowing what is right and the lure of adventure. From feeling dead and inert to having something feel good. I have a wife... I have children... This isn't right, he tells himself, but it does little to quell what brought him here. Why am I here? What am I looking for? he wonders. The anxiety remains.
Danny, having married before being of drinking age, had rarely been in a bar; he really didn't know what to expect. While in high school his family had undergone severe turmoil. An alcoholic father, a small town and the law made sure he was quiet and kept to himself. Shy and awkward, Danny knew he would be out of his element; yet still the unknown beckoned.
Click, pop, the old truck's door swings open with a complaining creak. Danny steps out and draws a breath of the evening air. He wishes he had someone with him, someone he could confide in. No one expects him to be here, now. To his family, his friends, his life with Rachel appears happy; at least for the most part. Am I a fool? Rachel is a beautiful woman, is there something wrong with me? He begins the lonely walk toward the saloon his steps matching the pounding of his heart.
His mind drifts to the new friends he has made, to the people he had met. "Met" is a rather loose term, he had only chatted with these people online. He had never actually met them face to face. In fact everyone uses a handle -- none of the people he had "met" actually knew his real name.
His "friends" know him as Paos Yrovi. Danny enjoys his handle, the silliness of it. Most upon seeing it will ask if he is a foreigner, a Russian maybe. But in truth it's just Ivory Soap spelled backward. He shakes his head with a wry grin. What kind of people am I really about to meet? Reaching out he pulls the saloon door open and steps inside. A man stands near a podium
"Sir, can I see some ID please?"
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Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Too Old? Too Young?
I got an email recently from a reader that said, "I was hoping my age wouldn't scare you away. I know you like them older." He's 30.
That got me thinking about the advantages and disadvantages of men of different age groups. My young reader was right when he said that I like older men. In fact, until fairly recently, I was pretty much only interested in older men. But then some younger guys got my attention and I've had to re-evaluate my preferences.
People change. I was 20 when I first developed my preference for "older men," which I considered to be 40-60 at that time. I'm in my late (ahem) 40's now and, let's just face it, there aren't as many eligible and desirable men who are older than me now, certainly not as many as there were 25 years ago. As I have broadened my preference range, I've noticed there are some really desirable features in all age groups.
For ease of discussion, I'll divide men into three groups: younger (18-39), older (50-65), and contemporaries (40-49).
The younger guys have some obvious advantages - enthusiasm, energy, stamina, willingness to experiment. Many also have hard, young men's bodies, which is very nice, of course. Young men don't have a corner on these characteristics, though. The men I've been with who had the most stamina were 50 and 63 years old. The biggest disadvantage of younger men is that most really don't know how to please a woman yet, but they think they know. Those who do know something about giving a woman pleasure only have one or two tricks in their little toolboxes.
Older men also have some great advantages. The most notable advantage is that most know their way around a woman's body. There is just no substitute for this. All the energy in the world can't beat a man who knows exactly how to make me scream with pleasure. Older men are also usually settled in their careers and they have great advice to give. I'm not kidding. I've received some of the best business and accounting advice from older men while resting in bed between "sessions."
I think the trick with older men is to find the ones who are not "old" yet. And if you are a man between 50 and 65, you need to do what you need to do to keep from getting prematurely "old." The two men I referred to above with the great stamina are definitely not old. One is still a competing triathlete at the age of 63 (wow!) and the other used to be a competitive speed boat racer. He doesn't race anymore, but he has stayed very active in that world.
The biggest surprise for me has been getting to know my contemporaries. These men who are in their 40's now are the ones I was supposed to have been dating 25 years ago, but I gave then no attention at all because I thought they were too young for me. They are between the younger and the older and they seem to have the advantages of both without most of the disadvantages of either group. The thing that really surprised me is that I have a lot in common with this age group (I know, it's a no brainer, but I just figured it out). We understand the same cultural references and are familiar with the same music.
Those with whom I have developed long term, close relationships (DauntlessD, Webcam Guy, JJ) are in this group.
Now that I've said all that, I'll confuse you further with my belief that chronological age doesn't matter if you're looking for a long term relationship of any kind with someone. If you just want a quick roll in the hay, go with your preference, but for a longer term relationship, it's not about age. It's about enthusiasm, caring, selflessness,character, sense of humor, and a bunch of other characteristics that have nothing to do with age.
My mom used to tell me and my siblings, "You won't be able to attract the kind of man/woman you want until you become the kind of man/woman that he/she would want."
If there's something you need to do to better yourself, do it. Get off the couch. Learn something. Meet people. Engage with life.
Then you'll be interesting, regardless of your age.
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Read Advice for Prowlers to learn a few things about successful prowling.
That got me thinking about the advantages and disadvantages of men of different age groups. My young reader was right when he said that I like older men. In fact, until fairly recently, I was pretty much only interested in older men. But then some younger guys got my attention and I've had to re-evaluate my preferences.
People change. I was 20 when I first developed my preference for "older men," which I considered to be 40-60 at that time. I'm in my late (ahem) 40's now and, let's just face it, there aren't as many eligible and desirable men who are older than me now, certainly not as many as there were 25 years ago. As I have broadened my preference range, I've noticed there are some really desirable features in all age groups.
For ease of discussion, I'll divide men into three groups: younger (18-39), older (50-65), and contemporaries (40-49).
The younger guys have some obvious advantages - enthusiasm, energy, stamina, willingness to experiment. Many also have hard, young men's bodies, which is very nice, of course. Young men don't have a corner on these characteristics, though. The men I've been with who had the most stamina were 50 and 63 years old. The biggest disadvantage of younger men is that most really don't know how to please a woman yet, but they think they know. Those who do know something about giving a woman pleasure only have one or two tricks in their little toolboxes.
Older men also have some great advantages. The most notable advantage is that most know their way around a woman's body. There is just no substitute for this. All the energy in the world can't beat a man who knows exactly how to make me scream with pleasure. Older men are also usually settled in their careers and they have great advice to give. I'm not kidding. I've received some of the best business and accounting advice from older men while resting in bed between "sessions."
I think the trick with older men is to find the ones who are not "old" yet. And if you are a man between 50 and 65, you need to do what you need to do to keep from getting prematurely "old." The two men I referred to above with the great stamina are definitely not old. One is still a competing triathlete at the age of 63 (wow!) and the other used to be a competitive speed boat racer. He doesn't race anymore, but he has stayed very active in that world.
The biggest surprise for me has been getting to know my contemporaries. These men who are in their 40's now are the ones I was supposed to have been dating 25 years ago, but I gave then no attention at all because I thought they were too young for me. They are between the younger and the older and they seem to have the advantages of both without most of the disadvantages of either group. The thing that really surprised me is that I have a lot in common with this age group (I know, it's a no brainer, but I just figured it out). We understand the same cultural references and are familiar with the same music.
Those with whom I have developed long term, close relationships (DauntlessD, Webcam Guy, JJ) are in this group.
Now that I've said all that, I'll confuse you further with my belief that chronological age doesn't matter if you're looking for a long term relationship of any kind with someone. If you just want a quick roll in the hay, go with your preference, but for a longer term relationship, it's not about age. It's about enthusiasm, caring, selflessness,character, sense of humor, and a bunch of other characteristics that have nothing to do with age.
My mom used to tell me and my siblings, "You won't be able to attract the kind of man/woman you want until you become the kind of man/woman that he/she would want."
If there's something you need to do to better yourself, do it. Get off the couch. Learn something. Meet people. Engage with life.
Then you'll be interesting, regardless of your age.
**************************
Read Advice for Prowlers to learn a few things about successful prowling.
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