Marriage in the Bedroom

There are thousands of blogs out there.  Some are good, and some are not so good. Every now and then I come across a new one that catches my attention.  Marriage in the Bedroom (by Ponyboy) is one of those.

Marriage in the Bedroom is not a sex blog, but sex is a frequent topic.  It is not an infidelity blog, either, but it discusses infidelity.  Okay, I can hear you now, "Kat, if it's not a sex blog or an infidelity blog, why are you recommending it?" That's a fair question.

It's about the marital relationship, and the issues and struggles that married couples face - including sex.  It's well written and it's written by a man who is clearly living day to day in the marital trenches like most of us are.

My favorite posts so far:

A Good Wife is Not Defined by How Much She Puts Out - This is the post that first got my attention. When I read it, I saw a loving husband. What's not fabulous about that? But it's not all touchy feely hearts and smiles....

How Not to Be a Pussy - This post has five great tips on how to be a man in your marriage. Memorize them, guys.

Take Responsibility for Your Sex Life - Suggestions that the author (Ponyboy) read on another blog that have worked for him.

Alpha - Beta Balance - If you read the male "game" blogs, you read a lot about alpha, alpha, alpha, but these guys just don't get that it's not all about being Alpha. There's a time and place for it, of course, but all alpha and no beta makes a guy who has sex with his hand more than with any woman.  Ponyboy gets it.

Brain and Cock Are Not Connected, Brain and Pussy Are - This has to be one of my favorite blog post titles of all time. And it's true.

Some really good blogs have been shut down recently.  While those favorites can never be replaced, it's nice to know that we can turn to some new talent to help us fill the void.

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Oh!  While you're reading Marriage in the Bedroom, don't forget to comment, follow, etc.  Introduce yourself and make yourself at home. :-)

Random Thoughts on a Sunday Afternoon

It seems like I get lots of random thoughts on Sunday afternoons. Lucky for you (or unlucky maybe), I have no problem sharing them.

• I was struck yesterday by Luna Moon's post The Clash. She referenced the cheater's big dilemma - stay and cheat? Or leave? I know it's a dilemma that many folks struggle with. And it reminded me of some comments I made recently on the Married Man Sex Life blog. It's not a dilemma for me.  I've known since I married my husband that I would never leave him. I've learned through folks who have responded to my comments on that blog and from some of the trolls here that many folks just don't understand that having sex with someone else does not mean you don't love and care about your spouse. Some people just can't see beyond their own reality.
• Speaking of trolls, I really wish they would engage in conversation rather than just sniping and leaving sarcastic comments. They should know that we welcome the debate, but they seem to just want to judge rather than discuss anything.  That's really too bad.
• I got a phone call this morning (actually 10 phone calls) from a 25 year old young man who wouldn't identify himself.  He said he likes fucking older married women, and lots of other things that I won't share here.  He wouldn't say how he got my number or how he knows me. When I wasn't receptive to his offer, he kept calling, and calling, and calling.  At Daunt's suggestion, I forwarded my phone to the local police department for a little while. After I stopped the forwarding, the calls didn't start up again. I hope he got the message that I am not afraid to involve the police. I suppose that's a message I want to share with all my readers, too. Be nice. Most of you are wonderful.  For the very few who are not, just be nice. Okay?
• The Nicolas Cage skit on Saturday Night Live last night was hilarious! I guess SNL may be getting good again.  That would be nice.
• I just realized that I remember season 1 of SNL. Now I feel old.
• Knitting a blanket just takes too long. It will be summer time before I finish the project I'm working on at the pace I'm going.
• OMG.  I remember season 1 of SNL  and I'm knitting a blanket. {sigh} Now I feel really old. 
• There's a new blog I'm really enjoying - Marriage in the Bedroom I'll be writing a whole post to tell you why, but if you want a preview, head over there now.  As of today, the most recent post is Brain and Cock are Not Connected, Brain and Pussy Are. The author (Ponyboy) has some great insight.  Add it to your follow list.
• I just watched a commercial about a devise that you wear around your midsection.  I guess t send electric impulses to your abs and is supposed to give you a six pack without having to do any crunches. Wow! Who are the people who buy that sort of crap...uh...stuff?
• I miss JJ.  That's more of a constant thought than a random one, but I'm sharing it anyway.