Summer Break is Over

I'm surprised any of you are still here, Prowlers. I've been gone way too long.

Why?

Many reasons.  Work. A touch of depression. Lack of action. And just generally nothing to say.

But then someone pointed out to me that the news alone is a treasure trove of ideas.  Anthony Weiner is just the start, and yes, I do have a few things to say about Mr. Weiner and his lovely wife.

That will come later. To catch you up on what I've been doing.....

I'm still in touch Mr. SNS Guy.  Yes, he's wonderful and yes, he still lives across the country so no, I haven't been getting any sex with him.

I've been in full summer mode with my boys at home. That means camping. I'm not the fan of camping that I used to be when I was younger.  I would much prefer stay in the nearest four star hotel and then use the day use facilities at the national parks to enjoy the great outdoors. However, my youngest is a member of a certain youth organization that encourages camping and outdoor exploration, so he and I have learned together how to pitch a tent, start a fire, cook over a fire, etc.  It may impress you that I am now quite skilled at five different ways to light a fire without the use of a match (or lighter). I also know several different ways to make s'mores.

We'll be camping again this weekend with that youth organization I just mentioned, and there will be plenty of young dads there (young = 30-45). That means I'm sure I'll have plenty to write about. Maybe, just maybe, I'll get some camping sex. It's unlikely, but hope is all I have right now.

So, instead of making excuses for the last couple of months, I'm simply going to say I was on summer break.  School is just about back in session, so I'm back, too.

For you, Prowlers, it's back to PWK school.  Naughty Kat still has a thing or two to teach you.

Have You Ever Felt Like This?

Thanks to SNS Guy for sharing this with me.

Half a Million Hits!

It happened quite a while ago during that period of time when I so busy with work that I barely had time to breathe, let alone post or prowl. I kept telling myself that when we got close to 500,000 hits, I would plan a little PWK party, but I got busy and it just didn't happen.


But it's never too late, right?  We may be well beyond 500K, but we can still celebrate.

So, in the comments, tell us your favorite thing about PWK.  It can be a favorite post or something you learned or someone you met here who touched your life......just about anything, as long as it's good.

Which Suit Suits Cara Best?

Cara went shopping for a swim suit.  Which one do you like best?

I think that one is reminiscent of a little French maid outfit, don't you?

This one is really cute, too. In fact, I think it's my favorite, although I like that brown bikini from last year just as much.

Cara, where's the birthday suit????

Prowlers, which do you prefer?

What's Under *Your* Bed?

 I saw this on Facebook this morning and it made me chuckle. Have your kids ever found something of yours that they shouldn't have?

A Stupid Question and a Reasonable Answer

A comment was posted earlier today to yesterday's Do You Know.... post that was ignorant and, yes, a bit annoying.  I removed the comment (and all comments replying to it) from the post, but the ignorance part of the equation has been gnawing on me. I decided to address it in its own post, so here we are.

First, let me remind you that I very rarely remove a comment.  This is only the third time I've done it since PWK went live.  The first one was attacking a friend of mine. The second was a very rude and personal commentary on my marriage.  This was the third.

Here's the setting.  In yesterday's post, I was giving clues about my time with SNS Guy and one of the clues was "Lots of lube."

The comment was: "Lots of lube?! Not sure if you're enjoying? Normally, a woman should be able to produce natural lubricant? Your lube here is natural or applied lubricant?"

It annoyed me for several reasons, but mostly it annoyed me because of the ignorance it showed. I don't want any woman to read that comment and think that she's not normal.

First of all, the implication here is that clearly 1) a woman who uses lots of lube must not be enjoying sex, and 2) since a "normal woman" should be able to produce natural lubricant, a woman who needs or wants to supplement with additional lubricant is somehow not normal.

Let's not forget, too, that this person didn't even consider the use of lube for anal sex or manual stimulation (hand job) before jumping to an assumption of dysfunction. 

Below all of this stupidity, though, is a real issue that should be discussed and that doesn't get nearly enough space in sex blogs.

Menopause.

Seriously, you have no idea how hard it was for me to write that word, not because I have a problem being "a woman of a certain age," but because I know it conjures an image of old and dried up, rather than sexy and alluring. In our culture, sexy and alluring is young. Anything else is a waste of time or "not normal."

Before I go any further, let's talk about biology for a few moments. In the process of peri-menopause and menopause (yes, it's a long process, not an event), vaginal dryness resulting from hormonal changes is a completely natural condition. A woman doesn't go from dripping wet to bone dry over night. It's a process, which means that sometimes no lube is needed, sometimes only a little is needed, sometimes a lot. Some of us are dry before, but we become very wet when we cum.  Others of us don't.  Some of us don't know from day to day how our bodies will respond.

This whole thing is really confusing for men because you poor guys are used to thinking "wet means she's turned on and dry means she's not" and now the rules have changed on you.  Again. Lack of natural lubrication is not necessarily an indication of lack of interest. How will you know? I guess you'll have to actually talk to us....and pay attention for other signs.

So, to specifically answer Mr. Ignorant's questions - Yes, lots of lube. I enjoyed myself immensely.  I don't measure my sexual satisfaction or happiness by how much lubricant I use.  I would not suggest that anyone do that. As for whether or not I am a "normal" woman, I can assure you that I am physiologically normal, but in every other way, I am absolutely exceptional. I can provide references, if necessary. And regarding whether or not the lube I used was natural or applied, the answer is "both."

I've written before about the sexual differences between women of different ages. There are advantages and disadvantages to all, but all are exactly perfect and normal as they are. A 20-year old woman is supposed to be a bit naive, slippery wet, and not fully familiar with everything her own body can do yet. A 50-year old woman is supposed to have a better sexual skill set, experience some vaginal dryness, and know herself and her body well. Younger women are hardwired to be looking for strength, security, and good baby-makers. Older women are freed of those biological restraints and can look for whatever pleases them. Younger women have bodies made to attract the best baby-makers. Older women have to rely more on our other characteristics and skills, although more and more older women are keeping hot bodies well into their 60's.

Over the coming weeks, I'll post some information and comments about peri-menopause and menopause.  Gentlemen, while you may think it doesn't apply to you,  if you're married, your wife will go through it or already has. For the rest of you, you never know what an older woman can teach you. 

You should be prepared.

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If you have specific questions about peri-menopause or menopause, please post them in the comments or send them to me via email.

Do you know.....

.....how hard it is not to burp, cuss, fart or scratch inappropriately for three full days?  Trust me, it's not easy.  When you go on a regular "date," you just have to hold it together for a few hours.  Anyone can do that.  That's amateur stuff. Being on your best behavior for three days puts you in the Prowling Big Leagues.

That was me over this last weekend.

SNS Guy's flight was delayed on the day we were supposed to meet, so I made the best of the time - had lunch with a friend, did some shopping, went to a movie.  When I finally picked him up at the airport, we were both tired. That's not exactly how you want to feel at that first moment. The hair and makeup which had been perfect in the morning were replaced with disheveled and droopy hair and some light circles under the eyes that were becoming more dark.  Picture wild raccoon.  Got the picture? It wasn't pretty, but it was still wonderful to see him - and he looked great. Took my breath away, to be honest. I had been waiting a while to see those kind eyes.

He was almost exactly as I expected, which is nice, isn't it? Those of you have been surprised at a first meeting will know what I mean.

He was charming, funny, a great kisser, and he treated me like a queen. There are other things he was very good at and other awesome things he did, but he asked me not to blog about the details of our time together, particularly the intimate details. Of course, I'll respect that.

I know you're disappointed because you were looking for a bunch of hot and sexy details. All I can do is give you a few cues and let your imagination do the rest of the work.

Clue: Hours and hours and hours in bed.
Clue: Candles it throughout the room.
Clue: Lots of lube.
Clue: Insatiable Kat.
Clue: Pleasurable afterglow.
Clue: Not enough sleep.
Clue: Very romantic meal(s).
Clue: Lots of physical contact.
Clue: More insatiable Kat.
Clue:  Sad goodbye.

Got the idea?