Within about 5 seconds of seeing Army Guy for the first time he had me pinned up against the wall, was pulling my hair to force me to keep my face turned toward his while he kissed me forcefully, and his other hand was in my panties. I was stunned and a little scared, but I was also incredibly turned on.
I'd had a chance to say "hello" when he first opened the door, but that was it before he took charge of our first meeting.
He was taking a big chance with that approach. I might have been so shocked that I wouldn't play along, or so scared that I'd have to get out of there. Instead, he grabbed me in more ways than one that afternoon, to the degree that whenever I think of that line from Jerry Maguire, "You had me at hello," I think of him.
He absolutely had me at hello, both literally and figuratively.
He slid a couple of fingers inside me and then started fingering my clit. I moaned as he touched me and he responded by pulling my hair harder and saying something affirming that he was in charge. I can't remember exactly what it was because my focus was a little fuzzy and my legs were starting to feel shaky. I do remember being grateful that he had me pinned against the wall as I started to cum because I wasn't very confident in my ability to stand on my own at that moment.
After the little ripples of pleasure started subsiding, he stepped back, releasing his hold on me. I grabbed his shoulders quickly as my knees buckled, and he quickly put his arms around me to steady me. I looked up at him and what I saw next made me gasp.
He had the most beautiful, piercing eyes I had seen in a long time. They seemed to be looking deep into me and through at the same time. I would see that same look several times that afternoon, confirming that I really had seen what I thought I did.
Let me back up and tell you more about what I had learned about him before we met. We met on AM, and one of the first things I noticed was that he was very, very bright. He was also the kind of man who made a habit of thinking things through before speaking. Well-spoken. A gifted writer. Reserved. Conservative. Reliable. Safe.
But he had an entirely different side that took over when the door closed. The contrast between his intellect and his physicality was both surprising and intriguing.
When I met him, one of the first things I noticed, too, was that he looked at least 10 years younger than he really was, and whether he looked cute or handsome depended on the mood he was in and the angle at which you were viewing him.
Just as he was different than anyone I had met before, the afternoon progressed in an unexpected way. We played around for awhile, then we talked about his studies. We awkwardly tried one position, then another. Then we were talking about books and he was reading me a passage of one he had read recently.
I realized that, except for those captivating minutes of introduction right after we saw each other, I was enjoying the conversation and I was feeling awkward about the rest. Does that sound like me? Nope. As I thought about it, I realized what was going on - I was nervous. I really liked this guy. This was no longer a "cum a few times, evaluate, then take it or leave it" situation. I knew that, unless he got scared and went into hiding (men tend to do that when they don't know how to handle a relationship that isn't going the way they thought it would), we could be friends for a long time.
That made it a whole different ball game.
But not that different. I found the opportunity to kneel in front of him and take his beautiful hard cock into my mouth, and the awkwardness and nervousness was gone. I looked up and watched him watching me as his cock slid in and out of my mouth. I remember taking him into my throat and swallowing and feeling his hand on the back of my head. I didn't think about technique or if he liked it this was or that; I just went with it, letting it happen. Before long he was grunting quietly and coming in my mouth.
We talked for awhile more. Then we got cleaned up and dressed, talking the whole time. For once, I did more listening than talking, and I was entranced by watching him get dressed. There is nothing like watching a man in uniform painstakingly transform from naked lover to responsible serviceman. I kissed him goodbye and I left. I didn't want to go, but I had to, and so did he.
Since that day, Army Guy has been the subject of quite a few of my late night fantasies. They all start with him taking charge forcefully and us pleasing each other in innumerable ways - without any awkwardness or nervousness. It's comfortable and pleasurable - like making love with a friend.
Hey, somebody has to serve the servicemen. ;-)
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
25 Things That Make Kat Purr
A deep, passionate, wet kiss that lasts for a long time.
A sweet expression of affection whispered in my ear.
Curling up naked in the dark with a lover- talking, sharing, kissing.
Being manhandled in a sexy way by a dominant man, whether I think I want it at the time or not.
A deep, hard fucking from behind.
Falling asleep in my husband's arms.
Dirty talk in bed.
Making love to someone who cares about me.
Listening to a man beg for more.
Swallowing warm cum.
Sweet kisses on my neck.
A strong hand sliding between my legs.
A wet mouth sucking on my nipple.
The feel of cum dripping down my thigh.
Rough sex.
Sweet, gentle, loving sex.
Watching my lover come.
Hearing a lover's expression of desire.
Naughty texts and emails.
Looking at photos of Cara and Soccer Mom.
The first kiss with a new lover.
Initial penetration.
Anticipation before an encounter.
Satisfaction after an encounter.
Stealing a kiss in a public place.
A sweet expression of affection whispered in my ear.
Curling up naked in the dark with a lover- talking, sharing, kissing.
Being manhandled in a sexy way by a dominant man, whether I think I want it at the time or not.
A deep, hard fucking from behind.
Falling asleep in my husband's arms.
Dirty talk in bed.
Making love to someone who cares about me.
Listening to a man beg for more.
Swallowing warm cum.
Sweet kisses on my neck.
A strong hand sliding between my legs.
A wet mouth sucking on my nipple.
The feel of cum dripping down my thigh.
Rough sex.
Sweet, gentle, loving sex.
Watching my lover come.
Hearing a lover's expression of desire.
Naughty texts and emails.
Looking at photos of Cara and Soccer Mom.
The first kiss with a new lover.
Initial penetration.
Anticipation before an encounter.
Satisfaction after an encounter.
Stealing a kiss in a public place.
Tuesday, January 10, 2012
Another View of Soccer Mom
I needed some inspiration this afternoon, so I thought, "What would get my heart beating a little faster and make my panties a little moist?"
The answer?
Another picture of Soccer Mom!
Just so you know, the naughtier ones are still coming, so keep checking back, ok?
The answer?
Another picture of Soccer Mom!
Just so you know, the naughtier ones are still coming, so keep checking back, ok?
11 Things I Learned from Watching Cheaters
I was on vacation for a week over the holidays. One day when I was home by myself (a very rare event), I watched a few episodes of the T.V. show Cheaters. It was purely for research, of course. To be honest, I really couldn't stand the show, not because it showed cheaters getting caught, but it was displaying - in a very crude and cruel way - peoples' pain, and pandering to the desire of others to see people in pain. I am not into that sort of thing at all.
But I did learn a few things while watching those episodes.
But I did learn a few things while watching those episodes.
- "Motherfucker" seems to be a much more commonly used word than I thought.
- Most of the folks on that show go bat shit crazy when they get the proof that their partner is cheating. Hubby and I were quite civilized.
- You can always count on reality TV to show the worst possible side of humanity.
- There are no truly innocent parties in that show. The most guilty? The creators, crew, and cast of the show. I saw one woman (the cheater) who was so distraught when she was caught and shamed publicly that she almost jumped off the roof of a building.
- Apparently, when I learned about Hubby's cheating, I should have screamed at him, "What now, Motherfucker?!!!!" My approach of holding him, telling him it was ok, and telling him I loved him seems not to be the popular response.
- Apparently, when Hubby learned about my cheating, he should have screamed at me, "You fucking whore!!!" His approach of holding me, telling me it was ok, and telling me that he loved me seems not to be the popular response, either.
- People who really want to cheat will find the most creative ways to be together. I picked up a few good ideas. ;-)
- Apparently some people think that the car wash is a good place to clean up after a rendezvous. Eww.
- Most of the female cheaters on that show look and dress like hookers.
- Some people seem to think that exposing their young children to the "gottcha!" moment is appropriate. (I don't.)
- The show hosts a social network for people looking for partners who don't cheat. Of course, you have to take a pledge swearing that you're single and not in a relationship, and that you won't cheat. Whew....I'm sure that pledge makes sure no one ever lies about that. Check it out: http://www.nocheatersdate.com/ .
Monday, January 9, 2012
To Our Friendly Neighborhood Kat Haters
Oh, were you expecting Kat? Nope, it's me Daunt and I decided to pop in to say something that many of our part time readers may find controversial. Ready?
Kat does not condone cheating.
What!? Blasphemy! Liar! Daunt, look around you, you big fool! That's what this whole blog is about!!
I'll say it again: Kat does not condone cheating.
To our regular readers, this is no surprise at all. I can agree, that yes, maybe on the surface this blog may make cheating sound like a good idea -- seriously, how can you not read about these hot sexual encounters and not want some of that [with your spouse]; but dig below the surface and you'll find something unexpected. Counsel to avoid cheating.
Over the past year I've been consistently amazed at how Kat can write about the various experiences of her life, exciting, comical, mundane, sad or sinful, and make it an engaging read highlighting relatable truths we all face.
I've also learned along the way, while meeting others in the world of cheaters, is that they are like everyone else; just people struggling through life trying to get their needs met. We're all imperfect. We all engage in destructive behavior at times, but hopefully we learn and strive to be better.
C'mon Kat Haters! I dare ya! Go back, avoid the sex posts and see what you find! Ha, yeah that's what I thought. You're all scared of your own shadow; too frightened to end up liking someone you disagree with.
Kat does not condone cheating.
What!? Blasphemy! Liar! Daunt, look around you, you big fool! That's what this whole blog is about!!
I'll say it again: Kat does not condone cheating.
To our regular readers, this is no surprise at all. I can agree, that yes, maybe on the surface this blog may make cheating sound like a good idea -- seriously, how can you not read about these hot sexual encounters and not want some of that [with your spouse]; but dig below the surface and you'll find something unexpected. Counsel to avoid cheating.
Over the past year I've been consistently amazed at how Kat can write about the various experiences of her life, exciting, comical, mundane, sad or sinful, and make it an engaging read highlighting relatable truths we all face.
I've also learned along the way, while meeting others in the world of cheaters, is that they are like everyone else; just people struggling through life trying to get their needs met. We're all imperfect. We all engage in destructive behavior at times, but hopefully we learn and strive to be better.
C'mon Kat Haters! I dare ya! Go back, avoid the sex posts and see what you find! Ha, yeah that's what I thought. You're all scared of your own shadow; too frightened to end up liking someone you disagree with.
My Therapist is Obessed
It's true. My therapist is obsessed with my feelings. She's constantly saying things like, "How do you feel when your husband does that (or doesn't do that)?" "How do you feel when you see your lover?" "How do you feel right now?" "How did you feel...?" "How did you feel..."" "How did you feel.....?" "How did you feel...?"
Uuugghhhh! Make it stop!
It's not that I don't have feelings. Of course I do. But I don't have feelings about everything. I have lots of thoughts about just about everything, but some things just are. They don't elicit a feeling for me.
For example, if I'm making dinner, I generally don't have a feeling attached to it. I have thoughts. I make enjoy it or not. I think about what I'm doing or I daydream about something else, but feelings generally aren't in play for me at that time.
In the same way, not every experience with others elicits feelings.
But my therapist is going to ask, and when she asks I start to second guess myself. Am I supposed to be feeling something about that? Or are therapists just supposed to ask? Then I'll close my eyes and try hard to feel something about whatever it was she asked about. If I don't and I say, "Nothing," I watch her face closely for the telltale signs that she thinks I'm repressing something - a tiny shudder of a raised eyebrow, a written note she makes.
Sometimes I would love to see the notes she writes. I suspect I might see things like this:
"Suppressing feelings from her childhood."
"Not in touch with her feelings about her husband."
"Confuses feelings with thoughts."
My thoughts on those things? Who the hell cares???
But the hour goes by more easily if I don't say things like that. So, I've memorized a few names of feelings that can apply to a variety of situations so I am always prepared for the "How did you feel....?" questions.
Powerless, resentful, ashamed, confused, frustrated, reassured, confident, rebellious, anxious, satisfied, and so on. If the question comes and I get the feeling that she won't let me off the hook with, "I don't know" or "I don't feel anything about that," I just pick from the list.
Here's a list of feeling words if you find yourself in a similar situation.
The only problem is that I think she figured it out because recently I said I felt satisfied about something and then she said, "Tell me more about that."
Damn.
I think she's obsessed with feelings the same way I tend to be obsessed with sex sometimes.
Maybe she needs therapy.
Uuugghhhh! Make it stop!
It's not that I don't have feelings. Of course I do. But I don't have feelings about everything. I have lots of thoughts about just about everything, but some things just are. They don't elicit a feeling for me.
For example, if I'm making dinner, I generally don't have a feeling attached to it. I have thoughts. I make enjoy it or not. I think about what I'm doing or I daydream about something else, but feelings generally aren't in play for me at that time.
In the same way, not every experience with others elicits feelings.
But my therapist is going to ask, and when she asks I start to second guess myself. Am I supposed to be feeling something about that? Or are therapists just supposed to ask? Then I'll close my eyes and try hard to feel something about whatever it was she asked about. If I don't and I say, "Nothing," I watch her face closely for the telltale signs that she thinks I'm repressing something - a tiny shudder of a raised eyebrow, a written note she makes.
Sometimes I would love to see the notes she writes. I suspect I might see things like this:
"Suppressing feelings from her childhood."
"Not in touch with her feelings about her husband."
"Confuses feelings with thoughts."
My thoughts on those things? Who the hell cares???
But the hour goes by more easily if I don't say things like that. So, I've memorized a few names of feelings that can apply to a variety of situations so I am always prepared for the "How did you feel....?" questions.
Powerless, resentful, ashamed, confused, frustrated, reassured, confident, rebellious, anxious, satisfied, and so on. If the question comes and I get the feeling that she won't let me off the hook with, "I don't know" or "I don't feel anything about that," I just pick from the list.
Here's a list of feeling words if you find yourself in a similar situation.
The only problem is that I think she figured it out because recently I said I felt satisfied about something and then she said, "Tell me more about that."
Damn.
I think she's obsessed with feelings the same way I tend to be obsessed with sex sometimes.
Maybe she needs therapy.
Sunday, January 8, 2012
Types of Cheaters
Not all cheaters are alike. Active prowlers know this, but most people don't. They assume that a cheater is a cheater is a cheater. Not so.
I've put together some descriptions of different types of cheaters. I make no moral judgement about any of them. Some people think that sex-only cheating is worse than emotional-only cheating. I don't know. I think it's up to the people involved. When I learned about my husband's infidelity, I was very relieved to learn that they were sex-only encounters, and that no emotional involvement was in play, but I know many others who would not agree.
Also, understand that no one fits in only one category for his/her entire life. People change. I've found myself in several of these categories at different times in my life. I've also been faithful for long stretches of time.
The "Affair of the Heart" Cheater - This is the type of cheater that most people think of when they think of infidelity. This cheater falls in love with someone other than his/her spouse, struggles with the issue, and then ends up consummating the affair sexually. This person probably didn't see the affair coming and may never have another, but s/he is fiercely committed to the relationship which is usually accompanied by a lot of guilt because it is both emotional and sexual. Contrary to the popular belief that most cheaters are male, there are just as many women as men in this category. This cheater is the most likely to actually leave his spouse voluntarily because the emotion, companionship, excitement, and great sex of the affair just underscores what is missing and miserable about his marriage.
The Serial Cheater - This type of cheater has fully embraced the lifestyle and has probably accepted the fact that monogamy is not for him. This person will cheat many times during his marriage, with many partners. Some of the affairs are sexual only, and others are emotional, but it's the newness that this cheater craves. If this cheater falls in love with a playmate, he will still cheat with others, too, because he needs that thrill and excitement of the hunt and the new catch. Some people believe that these cheaters are sex addicts, but that is not always the case. While sex is definitely involved in just about all of the serial cheater's connections, he is really looking for satisfaction of his need for newness and conquest.
The Variety Loving Cheater - This cheater is very much like the serial cheater except that he probably hasn't yet accepted the fact that monogamy is not for him. For this cheater, it's all about variety, and his cheating will be intermittent. He'll have periods of monogamy followed by spurts of infidelity with multiple partners for weeks or months and then he'll be monogamous again for a while. The periods of infidelity are stopped by guilt because he really is devoted to his spouse. This type of cheater is unlikely to leave his spouse unless he gets caught.
The Sex Only Cheater - It's all about the sex for this cheater. He doesn't want to develop relationships. He's not interested in "dating" or getting to know his playmate(s) at all. He'll stay after sex only as long as he needs to without appearing like too much of a jerk, and sometimes he'll go as far as to use only a fake name. One of the key features that differentiates this cheater from the other types is that he usually doesn't think he has really betrayed his spouse because he sees his behavior as physical only and he doesn't give away any of himself emotionally. He feels that he is only "partly cheating" because he doesn't become emotionally involved with his playmate(s). This cheater will rarely leave his spouse unless he is caught and the spouse gives him no choice.
The Emotional Relationship Only Cheater - This type of cheater is in an infidelity grey area. Because there may never be any physical sex, some people believe that this isn't really cheating, but spouses of emotional cheaters usually feel just as betrayed as spouses of cheaters who have sex with their playmates. Emotional cheaters are devoted to their spouses and won't (or don't want to) cross the line into a sexual relationship, but they crave an emotional connection. The affair may have started as a friendship, but it quickly evolves into a romantic relationship or a very close friendship. As he starts confiding more and more in his playmate and less and less in his spouse, his marriage deteriorates even further. The emotional affair often turns into a full-blown affair of the heart.
The Online Only Cheater - Like the emotional relationship cheater, this cheater doesn't think he's really cheating because the relationship isn't physical, but his spouse will feel just as betrayed if the affair is discovered. This type of affair is less likely than the others to become physical because the partners usually live far apart, although they do sometimes become physical and long lasting. These relationships can last for decades and these cheaters are the least likely to leave their spouses unless they are caught and the spouse initiates the split.
So, Prowlers, where do you fall in this list?
I've put together some descriptions of different types of cheaters. I make no moral judgement about any of them. Some people think that sex-only cheating is worse than emotional-only cheating. I don't know. I think it's up to the people involved. When I learned about my husband's infidelity, I was very relieved to learn that they were sex-only encounters, and that no emotional involvement was in play, but I know many others who would not agree.
Also, understand that no one fits in only one category for his/her entire life. People change. I've found myself in several of these categories at different times in my life. I've also been faithful for long stretches of time.
The "Affair of the Heart" Cheater - This is the type of cheater that most people think of when they think of infidelity. This cheater falls in love with someone other than his/her spouse, struggles with the issue, and then ends up consummating the affair sexually. This person probably didn't see the affair coming and may never have another, but s/he is fiercely committed to the relationship which is usually accompanied by a lot of guilt because it is both emotional and sexual. Contrary to the popular belief that most cheaters are male, there are just as many women as men in this category. This cheater is the most likely to actually leave his spouse voluntarily because the emotion, companionship, excitement, and great sex of the affair just underscores what is missing and miserable about his marriage.
The Serial Cheater - This type of cheater has fully embraced the lifestyle and has probably accepted the fact that monogamy is not for him. This person will cheat many times during his marriage, with many partners. Some of the affairs are sexual only, and others are emotional, but it's the newness that this cheater craves. If this cheater falls in love with a playmate, he will still cheat with others, too, because he needs that thrill and excitement of the hunt and the new catch. Some people believe that these cheaters are sex addicts, but that is not always the case. While sex is definitely involved in just about all of the serial cheater's connections, he is really looking for satisfaction of his need for newness and conquest.
The Variety Loving Cheater - This cheater is very much like the serial cheater except that he probably hasn't yet accepted the fact that monogamy is not for him. For this cheater, it's all about variety, and his cheating will be intermittent. He'll have periods of monogamy followed by spurts of infidelity with multiple partners for weeks or months and then he'll be monogamous again for a while. The periods of infidelity are stopped by guilt because he really is devoted to his spouse. This type of cheater is unlikely to leave his spouse unless he gets caught.
The Sex Only Cheater - It's all about the sex for this cheater. He doesn't want to develop relationships. He's not interested in "dating" or getting to know his playmate(s) at all. He'll stay after sex only as long as he needs to without appearing like too much of a jerk, and sometimes he'll go as far as to use only a fake name. One of the key features that differentiates this cheater from the other types is that he usually doesn't think he has really betrayed his spouse because he sees his behavior as physical only and he doesn't give away any of himself emotionally. He feels that he is only "partly cheating" because he doesn't become emotionally involved with his playmate(s). This cheater will rarely leave his spouse unless he is caught and the spouse gives him no choice.
The Emotional Relationship Only Cheater - This type of cheater is in an infidelity grey area. Because there may never be any physical sex, some people believe that this isn't really cheating, but spouses of emotional cheaters usually feel just as betrayed as spouses of cheaters who have sex with their playmates. Emotional cheaters are devoted to their spouses and won't (or don't want to) cross the line into a sexual relationship, but they crave an emotional connection. The affair may have started as a friendship, but it quickly evolves into a romantic relationship or a very close friendship. As he starts confiding more and more in his playmate and less and less in his spouse, his marriage deteriorates even further. The emotional affair often turns into a full-blown affair of the heart.
The Online Only Cheater - Like the emotional relationship cheater, this cheater doesn't think he's really cheating because the relationship isn't physical, but his spouse will feel just as betrayed if the affair is discovered. This type of affair is less likely than the others to become physical because the partners usually live far apart, although they do sometimes become physical and long lasting. These relationships can last for decades and these cheaters are the least likely to leave their spouses unless they are caught and the spouse initiates the split.
So, Prowlers, where do you fall in this list?
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