Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2011!

Rori, author of  Beneath My Sheets, has just published the 4th annual list of the Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2011.

The big surprise is that PWK is #35 on the list, after being live for less than11 months! Wow! The first thing I did when I heard about this today was email DauntlessD and Cara, of course. The next thing I did was start thinking about what I would say in the acceptance speech.

Ok, so there's no opportunity for an acceptance speech, and if there were, I doubt #35 would be giving it, but you guys know me and I don't miss an occasion to talk. I think it would go something like this:

"Thank you so much for this recognition! (waving hand in front of my face to indicate I'm trying to dry my tears of joy) Thank you, of course, to Rori for the honor. I'd also like to thank all of the men I've had sex with over the past year - and those two women, too, even though I don't remember your names. Without you there wouldn't have been a Prowling with Kat.

And thank you to Cara for taking your clothes for us every (well, almost every) Thursday. You have kept many of our readers coming back for more. And Daunt. (tearing up, voice cracking just a little)  What can I say about my partner in crime, DauntlessD? Well, as far as this blog goes, it's really your fault, ya know. I was perfectly happy just sharing the stories of my dalliances with you and Cara, but you knew the world needed more sex and you encouraged me when I started thinking about publishing PWK. You're the best friend a gal could ever have.

Oh.....I'm hearing the music in the background so I'd better hurry! Thanks, too, to Hubby because there would be no PWK if he had acted even mildly interested in sex with his wife over the past year. And finally, last but not least, I have to send a HUGE thank you out to all our readers (even the Kat-haters) and other sex bloggers who encouraged and inspired us over the past year.  Some of you were already mentioned a minute ago when I thanked all the men I've had sex with over the past year, but I guess a double thank you doesn't hurt, does it? And to those readers who nominated me...wow! You're the best!!!  How can I repay you?

I love you all!  Here's to another great year!" (waving and blowing kisses as I walk off the stage)

Yeah, I'm pretty sure that's how it would go....or something like that anyway.

It really is wonderful to be mentioned in the company of so many terrific bloggers.

Ok, Prowlers, I highly recommend that you take a few minutes (preferably when you're alone and your hands are free...hehe) to browse through the list of Top 100 Sex Blooggers of 2011. There are many new bloggers on the list this year, and many great bloggers to discover.

Please spread the Top 100 link all over.

Daunt was right.  The world needs more sex.

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Kat's Alanis Morissette Moment

I was having an Alanis Morissette moment earlier today. Actually, it has been going on for a couple of weeks, but I have been pushing it to the back of my mind to avoid feeling it.  Today, however, for some reason, I just couldn't avoid it any longer.

One of my dearest online friends, Webcam Guy, has stopped communicating with me.  I don't know why.  He didn't really say. I know many who have experienced this with online friends.  Disappearing is not uncommon.

But it hurts.

I'm not talking about the breakup of a romantic relationship, but a close friendship. Because the topic of regression has been coming up a lot in my therapy recently, I immediately draw the connection that this feels like I'm in first grade and I've been told by one of my best friends that he doesn't want to be my friend anymore. WTF is up with that?
I have written a couple of times about break-up or pulling away scenarios in A Parable for Prowlers: It's Not Your Puppy and When the Wife Finds Out..., Even when you know and expect it, there's pain involved.  But when you don't expect it, it's worse.

So, today I felt a whole range of emotions that led to my Alanis Morissette moment. I thought about the situation. Sadness washed over me first. The truth is that I don't have a lot of close friends.  Losing one is a big deal.

Then came some anger.  Yes, it was pure Alanis Morissette You Oughta Know anger.



My favorite line - "And every time I scratch my nails down someone else's back, I hope you feel it..."

Yeah, that's the kind of anger that was blowing through me.

Then after I thought about it some more, I remembered some positive things about the relationship and all that I've learned from him.  I also reminded myself that maybe it's not completely over.  I do tend to assume the worst case scenario at times.

So my mood moved into the You Learn range.



I love the first line, "I'd recommend getting your heart trampled on to anyone...."

Me, too.

I though back to when I first signed on to AM.  What was I looking for?  I was looking for connection.  I wanted to experience more of life.  I wanted to feel.....something. (Oh yeah, and I wanted hard, rough, screaming-for-more sex, too.)

I got what I was looking for.  Connection. Yummy sex.

And, yes,  I started feeling things again after years of feeling numb and just walking through life pretending to be a happy and fulfilled wife.

Then, I started feeling gratitude.  I found all that I was looking for and more. I've made some fantastic friends, and Webcam Guy is one of them. Nothing can change that.  I remembered some of the times in the past 10 months that he helped me through some difficult times.

I wasn't angry anymore or pensive....I just wanted to say, Thank You.



I still don't understand what happened.  It still makes me sad. I still don't like it. I still miss talking to him.

But at least I'm not hiding from the emotions.

I think my Alanis Morissette moment was good for me.

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For all of you guys who can't stand the emotional touchy-feely stuff, don't worry.  Keep your chin up! My next post will be about anal sex....just for you. ;-)