Thursday, February 28, 2013

What I Want

I want passion.

I want to be consumed by my feelings for a man.

I want to know that he's into me, really into me, and that he wants me at least as much as I want him.

I want to feel that flutter in my heart when I hear his voice or get a text or email from him.

I want to be distracted by thoughts of him.

I want to know he's thinking of me, too.

I want to hear him say it.

I want to feel it.

I want sex that breaks down any barriers between us - uninhibited, wild, powerful, gentle, and loving....all at the same time.

I want to be able to be myself with him, hiding nothing.

I want to be able to tell him anything.

I want to be trusted.

I want to know that I matter to him.

I want  love.


11 comments:

Krazy said...

You and I have the same list. :)

Victoria Vista said...

I believe most of us have that same list! You stated it well!

~ Vista

Clem said...

Um, it works for me too.
well said

All About Love And Sex said...

You have listed out clearly here the requirements to be your lover!

Leah said...

Hey, that's my list too! Did you steal it when I wasn't looking??

Joking aside, it would be wonderful to get what we wanted, wouldn't it?

Riley Renfew said...

Very well spoken but I wonder why we settled for less when we married?

~McK said...

Once again well-timed and relevant. Our wants are the same.

Kaseraaa said...

I'm not sure of the above who have responded are male, but as a female would love to hear your response to our want/wish list!

Anonymous said...


you want a male persepctive;

I guess I will bite but I won’t hold any punches

those are pretty words but you don't know what you want





I want passion. (after two years of passion you will want stability, then you will want passion again, then …….)

I want to be consumed by my feelings for a man. (you can not be consumed by feelings for one man when you have feelings for many)

I want to know that he's into me, really into me, and that he wants me at least as much as I want him. (if he “really” wanted you as much as you want him, you would stop wanting him so much)

I want to feel that flutter in my heart when I hear his voice or get a text or email from him. (umm, grow up and join the real world, I can’t make your heart flutter every time I text or call) Go looking for unicorns while you are at it

I want to be distracted by thoughts of him. (pretty sure you already are)

I want to know he's thinking of me, too. (he is, but what is he thinking is the real question)

I want to hear him say it. (why, we say a lot of things to get what we want)

I want to feel it. (what does that even mean)

I want sex that breaks down any barriers between us - uninhibited, wild, powerful, gentle, and loving....all at the same time. (no pressure here, this isn’t even possible by websters definitions of gentle, powerful, wild, and uninhibited. Hell some of them are antonyms)

I want to be able to be myself with him, hiding nothing. (when you have nothing to hide you hide nothing, be proud of yourself and it will show)

I want to be able to tell him anything. (no you don’t)

I want to be trusted. (haha)

I want to know that I matter to him. (you do matter, he calls you when you matter)

I want love (not for long, a man’s love would suffocate you over time)


So there you have it. My advice is, the best things in life take work. There is no magical person that will complete you every second of every day for all the ends of time or whatever the hell it is you are hoping for. Basically you are living in a state of short term relationships where no one really knows the other, that way you can’t be let down by the other person because everyone is putting on a front. It doesn’t matter how long you known them when you have the same interactions time after time. Of course you will say how you know them at the deepest level and blah blah but the truth is, you don’t see all the ugly flaws in someone until you live with them, have children with them and share family with them because there is nowhere to run, you have to deal with issues. But that sounds boring compared to strange huh? you just need to tell yourself that your strange is somebody else’s boring and your boring could be somebody else’s strange.

Cameron said...

Needed to share another male perspective...been there, done that, know it can happen and hope to find it again soon. It's not an easy proposition, but when the planets mutually align, it can be wonderful, if not life-affirming. Granted, this is coming from a self-avowed romantic, but I've traveled that road twice now and know it is navigable. In fact, since reading this Kat, I am contemplating sharing it with someone who just might get it too.

Thanks...

Kat said...

Anon - Very interesting comments. Have we met?