Thursday, October 11, 2012

Facebook Fuck Up

This one is filed in my "oh my god, I can't believe I did that" file.

I sent out a message to about 40 people on Facebook yesterday. Business owners, close friends, family (including Hubby's extended family). It was a plea for a local businessman who has lost his business and his home and is pretty much destitute.  He's someone well-known and loved in our community and most people don't know how much he's suffering, so I thought I'd see if I could help a bit.

So far so good, right?

Within moments of sending the message, I received a reply from a friend saying he'd be sending some money to help. He asked for information that I hadn't put in the main message - name, address, etc. And we joked around a bit.

This particular friend is someone I have told you about before - my first online fling.  My first phone sex. My first long distance love. I've known him for over 18 years, but we've never met in person, and he's constantly telling me that I owe him a blow job and I vacillate between agreeing that I do and playing hard to get. He definitely wins the award for holding out the longest for a little bit of licking from Kat.

So, as we were "talking" in FB chat, after he told me how much he was going to give to this other friend to help him out, I was so excited I wrote, "I definitely owe you a b-job for this!"

A few seconds later, I realized that he had replied to all in his message to me, which meant that my BJ offer was sent out to my family, Hubby's family, prominent local citizens, my employees - everyone who got the original message.

Oh. My. God.

I tried to delete, but it was too late.  I could delete it from my screen and inbox, but not from everyone else's. It was out there and there was no way to take it back. I stared at my screen for awhile. I wondered how long it would take someone to call Hubby about this. I tried to think of a plausible explanation.

So far, two people (one employee and the PTA president from my son's school) have contacted me to let me know that I wasn't having a private conversation like I thought I was.  Neither mentioned the BJ comment but I could tell in their tone that's what they were referring to.  I'm hoping that most of the others just deleted it.

Now, I wait for fallout.

Oh my god, I can't believe I did that.

21 comments:

AsusieHomemaker said...

OMG, I would be freaking out. Hoping the fallout is not bad for you at all.

Leah said...

Oh dear Kat, there but for the grace of God go the rest of us!

Any chance of passing it off as a standing joke between you? I hope it works out and that you aren't cringing for too long.

Ponyboy said...

Ouch I feel for you on that one. One time I was texting my wife and it actually went to my Mom!

Fuck me.

I just confronted it head on and told her it was clearly not intended for her.

Maybe you can do the same thing, confront it head on with whomever you think will care the most (hubby?) and like Leah said, maybe say it's an inside joke between the two of you, you have known him for 18 years.

The other people probably had a good laugh and have forgotten about it already.

Best of luck.

Ryan Beaumont said...

Look on the bright side, once people see your in-kind offer in response to his thoughtful contribution maybe others will open their hearts to your kindness! Hey, I'm a glass half full kind of guy! Keep your chin up.

Anonymous said...

i did the same kind of thing once a long time ago. nothing much came of it other than i sure learned about checking for 'reply to all' responses. maybe it is time to come out to hubby and all.

Max said...

Oh. My. God....

If there's a worse feeling, I'm having trouble imagining it.

And there's always Ryan's "bright side" thought, which hopefully brought a smile to your face, as it's brought one to mine.

Big hugs....

Luna Moon said...

OMG! My heart started pounding when I read what you wrote. Something any one of us could have unintentionally done.

Maybe you could find another meaning for the word b-job? "Bonus Job?"

Hopefully it will be taken as simply a little light humor.

Anonymous said...

I'd go straight at it. Maybe even reply all that it was a long standing inside joke that had a purely alternate meaning to what they may suspect.

Best defense here is getting on offense.

Sister Terresa said...

i say confess to all of your activities. the truth will set you free in one way or another. telling another lie, such as "...long standing inside joke ..." will only turn around and bite you in the ass one of these days. the truth will out one of these days, so just take a deep breath and let it be today.

Krazy said...

Ah, Sister Teresa is crazy out of her mind. I would send a message to everyone and say you sent the message from your iPhone, and damn the fucking autocorrect. Say you meant, you owed him lunch. :) Good luck!

Tom said...

Ah... I've done that a few times myself (haven't we all?) and I'm always checking just before I hit the send button. (Although sometimes I just just after...)

Liam said...

So Kat. You're an church-going, business-running, family-raising, supper-cooking (I could go on) pillar of the community, right? People will be shocked - shocked I tell ya' - that such a paragon of virtue would joke around about trading sexual favors for charitable contributions. Next time you see them, a couple of the guys will ask how big a contribution they have to make (har har har). All in all, I'll guess this will prove embarrassing but survivable. (I do like the iPhone spell check approach, though.)

monkey girl said...

Holy shit.

Same sassy girl said...

Wow. I'd go for the autocorrect thing Krazy suggested.

In the "it could've been worse" vein - Philip and I were trading sexy photos and I sent one of my underwear... naked bodacious chest, pretty panties but no face. Except I posted it to my FB wall instead! with the words "You're making me late for work." I deleted it in less than 2 minutes, but I found out who has me on their "email me everything she posts" setting... my sister, BIL and several projects folks. And Hubby, who kindly said it was a cute photo! It bit me again two days later when I posted a photo of lunch - turns out taking it off your wall leaves it in mobile uploads! Hubby called to say "Great looking soup! and um... delete that photo. Again." ARRGH! I got several concerned emails asking if my account had been hacked? Hmmm... eep.

Hope your situation works out!

Marcus said...

You could always say it was a reference to that fake story about Neil Armstrong's neighbor whose wife was going to give him oral sex the day that the boy next door walked on the moon!

Shame on you said...

aa slut by any other name is still a slut. set yourself free and tell the poor bastard that you have fucked half the world and that he has been on the receiving end of sloppy seconds a few thousand times. free yourself and more importantly, allow him to divorce you with some dignaty.

you sure ain't no republican with an active snatch like that..

Anonymous said...

I would tell people it was a joke meant to be shared privately.

Kat said...

Thanks for the encouragement, Everybody! So far, there has been no fallout at all from my stupid mistake. IF it comes up, I plan to say that I was using my phone and autocorrect got me (That darn autocorrect!).

As for Mr. Shame-on-you, 1) I have not fucked half the world; 2) Hubby has not had sloppy seconds a few thousand times; 3)I feel quite free, thanks; 4) Hubby doesn't want a divorce; 5) Neither do I; 6) Yes, I am republican. I wasn't aware that sexual activity and interest were connected to political affiliation. Oh yeah, they're not. 7)You use the word "slut" like it's a dirty word. I guess it all depends on your perspective.

You would be much happier if you refrained from condemning things you don't understand.

Another Country Heatd From said...

Dear Kat-Cum Bucket,

I am afraid we DO understand these things. Prisons all across America are filled, even overfilled, with people who THOUGHT they could scam the system somehow. If you are about to do a crime you need to remember their are about 50 ways you could get caught, and that if you can think of half of them you're a fucking genius.

Well, if you're going to cheat on your spouse you need to have constant vigilance over everything you do, say, think, and feel. As you found out, one careless slip can have dire consequences, not only for yourself but for the innocents who do not even know they are involved.

You're doing it for you own selfish satisfaction. I personally hope you decide to stop this before he finds out and it shreds his heart like one of them things that chips tree limbs. It would be so different if he had been given the option of being in a half-open marriage, but from your blog I do not think he was consulted.

Dig yourself and try to figure out what is more important to you:a lot of exciting dick or the man you say you love.

Another Country

Kat said...

Another Country - Wow. You really are equating prowling with committing a crime and going to prison? Seriously?

You seem to be quite offended by what I have to say and how I live my life. Feel free not to read the blog if it bothers you so much.

On the other hand, if you get off on it (which is what I suspect is happening) you're welcome here like everyone else.

Ryan Beaumont said...

Kat Dear,

Come over to the Dark Side, us Dems will love you for who you are! :)

Well, at least I will!