Thursday, July 26, 2012

Involuntary Fidelity

It has been over a month since I've prowled and I have no immediate prospects in sight. This isn't my record, of course. My record is 8 years. Right now I'm wondering how I survived those 8 years. Actually, I know. I worked 60-80 hours a week.....and I ate a lot. FYI - neither of those is a good substitute for mind blowing sex. All they can do is distract you, hopefully enough so you forget about what you're missing.

I know what you're thinking. "Kat, you are a prowler extraordinaire. How could you be struck involuntarily faithful?"

 There are several reasons.

First, JJ has been MIA. He has been dealing with family issues and he's busy. In a week or so it will 2 months since I've seen him. And there has been hardly any communication in the last week, and none in the last few days....and it has been dwindling over time. Yeah, it looks more like lack of interest than lack of time to me, too. Ouch. I've got a bit of a heartache over that. I don't want to talk about it. Let's move on...

Second, I just haven't been that motivated to search out new friends. There's all that getting-to-know-you crap that seems to take forever. Whatever happened to the days when it was ok just to say, "Hey, I think we could have a good time together. Wanna?" Oh yeah, that was the 80's. Sometimes I miss the 80's.

Third, I've been busy at work (not a good thing) and Hubby and I are getting along very well (a very good thing) and I've fallen back into a rut in my life in general. I've made some changes in my work life that will get me out of that rut very soon, but when part of your life is in a rut, it's hard to get another part out of it, too.

Finally, I was reconsidering fidelity for awhile a few weeks ago. That got me out of the swing of things, I guess.

 So here I am.

Daunt corrected me earlier today and told me that I am actually voluntarily faithful because I could jump on AM and have a "date" within 24 hours if I really wanted to or I could pick up the phone and call any of a handful of ex-playmates and be hooked up within a few hours. That's true. So why don't I really want to?

Is it because I miss JJ and I'm down about not being able to see him and not talking to him?

Is it because I can't seem to get Seattle Guy off my mind?

I really don't know.

But I do know this. While I may not be in the mood to hunt, I'm an definitely hungry for an extramarital treat. Very hungry.

Well, if it's not going to come to me, I'll guess I'll have to get off my ass and go find a tasty morsel (a.k.a. hot and horny fine specimen of a man) to enjoy.

Applications are now being accepted.


Naughty Kitty said...

I feel ya Kat! I don't know how you do it! I fell into that rut over and over with my hubby. I just don't have the patience to do it anymore. I know you love your hubby. Maybe that's the difference. At any rate. Hang in there. Once the kids get back to school the boys may come out to play. At least that's what happened in my case.

P.S. will you please have Daunt come out to visit for a playdate with Kitty ;)

Ryan Beaumont said...

Whatever happened to those GILF's?

Mrs. M said...

I'm quite certain your next great story is just one hot penis away!! Maybe sometimes it's good to have a "moment" of clarity (or whatever). Maybe it makes us appreciate our other "moments" even more!! Who knows but I do know that I love to hear about all of your tasty morsels!!

the naked lady said...

Dear Kat,

I've been looking for a decent guy to have some fun with for 6+ months. I have a harder time motivating myself when husband and I are actually getting along...then I start feeling a little guilty...then I remember I'm hungry...

I would love to see a post from you on how you go about choosing your men. Do you have a list of things you're looking for? What's the secret to finding a good one that you can keep around long-term (because the constant looking is such a downer).

Cheers to getting out of the rut.
-the naked lady

Max said...

If this post doesn't fill up your Inbox, I don't know what will. :-)

Good luck!

Kat said...

Kitty- I'll be seeing Daunt in a little while. I'll be sure to nudge him your way.

Ryan - I'd still love to fuck them, but the odds are not in my favor. Bummer, huh?

Mrs. M - Thanks. I want to be sharing more JJ stories. We'll see. BTW, if those are your tits in your profile photo....yummy! Very nice.

naked lady- That's a great idea for a post. Thanks! I'll add it to my topic list.

Max - Believe it or not, I don't have a single email offer. Well, not from anyone who's local enough to do anything about it anyway. But the day is still young....

orange.poppy.2341 said...

I completely understand being in rut mode and I've been in a similar situation. For me, I became a little indifferent because some things felt like they were in limbo. Things were better than usual at home but my situation with my lover was teetering and I was uncertain if they would improve or if it was the beginning of the end. I wanted to figure out how things were going to work out (or not) before I started looking for another but I wanted some hot raunchy sex like lover and I used to have, partially because well... it was hot and partially because it was easy. Easy to get each other off, easy because there were no long term strings attached, and it was an outlet for some sexual relief. Like yourself, I have heavy work and home life responsibilities and I really enjoyed the ease, familiarity and hotness I had with lover. Maybe it's time for you have a little break, circle the wagons (so to speak) regroup, find some "Kat time" then you'll know what direction you need to move towards for the next chapter of life. As you grapple with all of this, I know eventually you will land on your feet, like all Kat's do.

xJayx said...
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xJayx said...

I would like to submit an application! I'd rather not put it on the open forum. How shall I go about submission.

Ps. Based on what ive read, I'm pretty sure I can match JJ in most areas...

David Benz said...

I feel ya Kat! I don't know how one does it! I fell into that rut more than and over with my hubby. I just don't have the determination to do so anymore. I understand you like your own hubby. Perhaps that's the real difference. At any sort of rate. Hang in there. When the kids get in return to class the boys might come out to try out. About that's what occurred in my case.

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