Monday, November 25, 2013

A Man's Guide to Giving Great "Clit"

 A few months ago, when I wrote Stress, Emotional Intimacy and Cunnilingus, I knew that I needed to find a guy to share some cunnilingus tips, for two main reasons: 1)  Many of you need assistance in that area, and 2) Having eaten pussy only a few times in my life, I'm in no position to give advice on this.

So I turned to my good friend SomewhereMan.  Now, I've never experienced his prowess, but I've heard reports that he really knows what he's doing.  Here's his contribution to the cause.

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When Kat asked me for a man's perspective on "going down", I jumped at the chance.  Not too quickly nor too eagerly, of course, but with care and concern.

Most women know they love it when their man (or men) go down on them.  Yet what works best?  How would they recommend a man proceed?  I know how I love my rod getting sucked but I'm not exactly in a position where I can get on my knees or give a hummer from the passenger seat on a long, country drive.

There was once a time where I was convinced that a man who was an expert in oral sex on a woman would never lose that woman.  Well... I've found that isn't true.  But a woman will allow more latitude if her man is complete, sensual and determined to make her cum.

Over and over.

A Man's Guide To Giving Great "Clit".

Watch Porn But Remember The Individual.  This is critical for each guy.  We all want to think that we're Peter North and can dig in with four women at a time.  Even Peter knows that each woman is a little...different.  I look back on my lovers over the past three years.  Some loved having their asshole licked.  Others tightened up as my tongue advanced to that region.  Some wanted the "tongue on clit/two fingers inside" extra value meal.  Others just wanted their clit sucked.  There is no "one style fits all".  

Eye Contact.  I can't stress this enough.  While you're digging in, keep plenty of eye contact with her.  She'll bit her bottom lip and, perhaps, pinch her nipples.  The eye contact is the silent affirmation of her beauty.  Women work hard to look good for us.  They give up rich food.  They do that yoga bullshit.  Eye contact doesn't cost anything but always pays off.

Let Her Know Time Doesn't Matter.  I do have a slight issue when I'm in the "receiving" position.  Out of my natural concern for others, I try not to take too long to climax.  I don't want her having to suck on me for 20 minutes because I don't want her to have a sore throat and busted wrists.  Yet, for a woman that I love (and I've been in "love" through my prowling), I would go down for an hour - or more - if that's what they wanted.  Never sigh while you're licking.  Purr a little bit.  Moan with her.

Thighs Are Your Friends.  Work them gently.  Make her goosebumps pop and her body tingle without even touching the goody box.  This is where a woman finds her peaceful "raft", where the troubles and the stress of her day just melt away like lemon drops.

Make Oral Sex The Main Course.  Don't treat it as foreplay.  Treat it as the main dish.  You'll get the actual sex later and it will be incredibly hot and wet.

Women, by nature, are extremely self-conscious about their bodies.  Many never allow themselves to reach an orgasm out of this worry.  Do whatever you can to make her feel comfortable and the beautiful woman that she is.


7 comments:

Lust for Love said...

Thanks for sharing these tips with us readers. The key is to learn the basics and then make adjustments or improvisations so as to offer her a customized experience she will never forget.

Anonymous said...

I was once "accused" of being a lesbian in a former life...
(JackinSD)

Krazy said...

Good boy! I wish *certain men* would read this valuable piece of advice. I am sure you are making the women in your life happy... at least in bed. :-)

Anonymous said...

Hmmm ..... Can I practice on Kat?

M

Rush said...

I would just add that touching the clit is also a very personalized experience. Some like light fast licks barely touching and I've found that saving a little extra spped for the end can work well with these women.
But I have also known women who's clits were too sensitive and they preferred a more indirect licking next to it or along the side in a way that moved skin without being directly touched on the clit.
Finally, some women really enjoy direct stimulation, sucking, and/or slow strokes. As SomewhereMan mentions it's all about the individual.

Same sassy girl said...

So good to know that SomewhereMan is alive and well. Thanks for sharing his advice! I volunteer if anyone wants to practice...

W&H said...

My current best friend has taught me the value of good oral after she gave me BBBJCIMS without me asking. So now I return the favors, up to 1.5 hours at a time, 3 hours a week, even as a main course without reciprocation. I had no idea it was so much fun...