TMI Tuesday 9/13/11 with DauntlessD

This weeks TMI Tuesday questions are on Dating.

1. You’re on a speed date. You’ve got 7 minutes with the potential partner. You already know the person’s name. What are the first three questions you would ask?

What was the last adventurous thing you did?

What was the last conversation you had with your mother like?

On a vacation, would you prefer quiet solitude or shopping and nightlife?

That second question... I have no idea why it popped in my head, but it would likely provide some insight to a woman, don't you think?

2. Have you ever participated in speed dating? Did you get a regular date/second date out of it?

No, I've never tried speed dating. However I do know someone who got married as a result of s speed date.

3. Do you participate in online dating? How many dates have you had as a result of online dating sites/matches?

Yes, back in the pre-internet days we had what were called BBS's (Bulletin Board Systems), I've met an enormous amount of people online; had quite a few dates etc. too.

More recently there was Ashley Madison, if you can call that "online dating". Over the past 10 months or so I engaged in quite a lot conversation with roughly a dozen women of which about half of those I met in person, and only 2 of which I honestly liked; Kat and Madison. I found I wasn't interested in the quick hook-up. You can read a bit more about this in my last post, DauntlessD Exposed.

4. You are attracted to:

a. Who people are? This is by far what most attracts me, the person them self. Their compassion, their sense of humor, the types of things they enjoy etc.

b. What people have? This has little to do with what attracts me. I suppose it can tell a little about how responsible a person is, like if they're living beyond what they can afford; but beyond that -- dirt poor or rich -- who they are is more important to me.

c. What they can do? Nope, also not very important to me. Of course a guy is going to like a gal that can cook -- and vice-versa -- but this one could easily cross over into using them couldn't it?

5. What “little red flag” will cause you to end a date or immediately decide this person isn’t for you?

This one is hard for me, it could be a number of things; insincerity comes to mind... Immaturity too. Once after I'd been seeing a gal for a bit I was invited to dinner at her apartment. She asked me to pick up something from the store and I brought her the wrong brand. She threw herself on her couch in what looked like a little girls tantrum. My eyebrows shot up and alarm bells started going off in my head.

6. What do you feel you need to sacrifice or have sacrificed to be a part of a relationship?

This one is something I've been reflecting on a lot lately. I've come to realize that you must not parts of your personality. It's easy to do early on, it feels like a small thing. Then it bubbles up later. But to answer the question, time, comes to mind. You need to sacrifice some of your time to grow and cultivate a relationship.

7. If you cooked for your date, what would you cook?

I am a decent cook, but I am a god at the barbecue. I could do a nice pasta dish of some sort, but I'd most likely do shark, steak, or salmon on the grill. It would depend on what she liked.

8. At the end of a first date, how would you kiss your date?

a. Press your lips against theirs - if I liked her, but she seemed nervous.

b. Gentle kiss on the cheek - if I liked her, but she was young enough to be my daughter.

c. Lots o’ tongue, like you’re on a tonsil exploration - If I really liked her and she was engaging and not nervous.

d. I don’t kiss on the first date - what kind of a lame option is this?

Bonus: You just put up a profile on a dating site. You must describe yourself in 10 words or less. What are your 10 words?

Vince Rizzo, Clam Digger.

So sad. The odds are that most of you have no idea what the hell I'm referencing.

Thanks again TMI Tuesday Blog!