I've heard many stories from people about how they were caught by their spouses while prowling. In almost all of these cases, the prowler thought that the spouse had absolutely no idea what was going on and was very surprised to be caught.
Never forget- You must assume that your spouse is smarter than you think s/he is. If you don't, you will undoubtedly end up in trouble.
Here are a few real life stories I've heard of ways people have been caught cheating. Some of these are men I've known personally. Others are people I've known, either online or in person, who shared what happened to them.
GPS Tracking - One woman told me that she was caught by her husband when he became suspicious and decided to track her via GPS. I don't know if he installed a tracking device in her car or if he simply tracked her via her smart phone, but he tracked her to a hotel where he confronted her.
Phone bill - One man told me that his wife, who never had paid any attention to the cell phone bill before, looked over the cell phone bill and saw hundreds of texts and calls to and from the same number. Curious, she called the number and a woman answered. Later, she checked her husband's cell phone, and that number was associated with a woman's name. That's when she confronted him.
Call log and texts- Another man told me that his wife looked at the call log on his phone and saw a bunch of calls, incoming and outgoing, associated with a woman's name. While she was looking through his phone, an explicitly naughty text from that woman came through.
Spouse following him - One man recounted how his wife saw him leave work and she followed him, thinking he was going to participate in a recreational activity they enjoyed. When he went to a hotel instead, she confronted him.
Blackmail attempt - One man (if you've been reading this blog for a while, you know who this is) was blackmailed by one of his fuck buddies who said she would tell his wife everything unless he gave her a certain amount of money. Instead of giving in to the threats, he chose to tell his wife instead so she would hear it from him and not the other woman.
Bodily fluids and scent on clothes in the laundry - One man's wife confronted him while she was doing the laundry after she found some of his clothes that smelled like sex. As she went through the clothes more carefully, she saw some stained with bodily fluids, too.
Reported by a friend - One woman was enjoying lunch with her lover at a popular restaurant about 20 miles from where she lived. She felt it was safe because it wasn't in her home town, so she and her lover were being particularly demonstrative - holding hands, kissing, etc. What she didn't know was that one of her husband's friends was in the restaurant, too. He recognized her and witnessed everything. Then he called her husband. Her husband confronted her as soon as she got home.
Email - One man accidentally forgot to close and sign out of his email account when he left the house. His wife went to use the computer and saw a long list of emails from his lover on the screen. She read them all. Then she looked at the sent messages and she read all of those. She called him and confronted him over the phone while he was at work.
To the best of my knowledge, all but one of these couples (husband and wife) are still together, but only two of the caught prowlers kept their lovers.
When you add these to all of the stories you've been told and all the things you've read about and seen on TV, you should get the message that it's pretty easy to get caught. Some of these folks were just careless, but others had spouses who were not as stupid as their prowling spouses thought they were.
Have you ever been caught? What happened? Have you ever known someone who was caught? Please share with us in the comments.
For some advice to help you avoid being caught, visit our Advice for Prowlers page.