Monday, January 24, 2011

Does Size Matter?

No....and yes.

Did that clear it up for ya?  No? Then I suppose I should explain further.

First, I can say with complete honesty that I have had great sex with men with very small penises (one each, of course). I've also had great sex with men with ED, who couldn't get hard. In those cases, it's all about creativity. Those men who know how to compensate for their shortcomings, pardon the pun, have left me quite satisfied and wanting more.

On the other hand, I've also been with men with nice large cocks who really didn't know what to do with them, other than the obvious, of course.  A quickie wham-bam-thankyouma'am session with a large dick is not much fun, and definitely far inferior to a nice long session with a creative and passionate man with a little one.

Are you confused?  Stay with me....

First of all, I have to admit that I like to be filled by a large hard cock (or two, or three) as much as the next gal, but it's really about confidence, passion and creativity. Sadly, many men who have been blessed with large cocks have never had to develop their other skills in bed, so they rely on their natural "gift" to get what they want and they assume that women will keep coming back just for that. Well, maybe we will, for a while. Eventually, though, that gets boring and we want more.  If Mr. Big Dick can't give us more, our minds start to wander, followed by the rest of the body in short order. He's got confidence, but his lack of creativity eventually leaves him playing solo.

Mr. Little Dick, though, knows he has to develop some other talents and skills.  He learns how to use his tongue.  He experiments with his fingers and hands (fisting, anyone?), and he uses sex toys to augment his own equipment - all for the pleasure of his partner, knowing that if she gets more pleasure, he does, too.  He tries lots of different positions to get the most leverage and benefit from the length and girth he does have. The bad news is that, even though these guys have the creativity thing locked, they may not get to share it very often because they lack confidence.

And then there's passion. Passion is all about desire, and showing your partner that you desire her. Some men are very good at this. Others, not so much. And no, simply expressing a desire to fuck her does not communicate passion. I'll be writing more on passion later, but it's very important. Of the reasons married women give for cheating, their need for passion is almost always at the top of the list.

Importantly, the development of confidence, creativity, and passion have nothing to do with the size of your dick.  So, whether you are big or small, you have a chance to become a great lover. The only question is, "Will you?"

Confidence, and a promise of passion, will get a woman into your bed. Creativity and passion will keep her there. those two little equations (Confidence + passion = sex; Creativity + passion = more sex) I didn't even mention size.



Master_Vyle said...

I happen to think big and creative work the best, as someone who has been on both the giving and recieving end of cock before. Of course I work at always being creative, sex being one of the few things not dictated to a set pattern by my OCD. In fact I try to make it very different each time (time providing.)

-Master Vyle

Adam said...

Well, I would say that the best combination would be size + creativity + passion, no? I probably watched too much porn as a younger man and got a bit of a complex about my size (let's face it, most male porn actors tend to be freakishly large). It wasn't until years later that I had a couple of lovers remark that I was, in fact, rather large myself. But, having never realized it for so long, I developed some creativity in my repertoire. So, a larger guy who THINKS he's small can be quite a good combo as well :)

Kat said...

You're absolutely right. Size + creativity + passion is the *best* combination. You seem to have the size and creativity....what about the passion?

I *love* your blog, by the way. ;)

Adam said...

Well Kat, I was going to mention that I'm also a VERY passionate man in my previous comment here but then I thought that if I claimed to have the coveted trifecta of size, creativity, AND passion, that it would make me sound like an arrogant jerk. And I'm totally not - I'm just a regular jerk :)

Seriously, I'm glad that you heart my blog. I've just recently begun reading yours and it's rapidly become one of my favorites. Keep up the good work!

Oh, and in addition to those other qualities mentioned above, I'm a pretty damn good cook too ;)

Kat said...

Adam, telling the truth about yourself (size, creativity, passion) might sound arrogant, but it might also look a lot like confidence - which is the foundation of the home run scenario. It's all in how you tell it, isn't it?

Interesting how I used the word "love" to describe how I like your blog, and you mirrored it back as "heart." That "l" word just gets stuck in the throat for some of you guys, doesn't it? LOL

A good cook, huh? That's great, but you already had my attention.....

Kat said...

Oh....and *thank you* for the compliment on the blog! You are...I mean your blog is....rapidly becoming a favorite of mine, too.

Adam said...

Ok, you got me - I fucking LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your blog! Yeah, I said it! :) You know why I am not afraid to use the "L" word? Because I'm a confident man, that's why! And, I was being modest earlier - I'm a GREAT cook. Deal with it...

See - I really have no problem with the "L" word. I was joking earlier with the "heart" comment. But, I kinda think you knew that already.

In all seriousness, it's very refreshing to read such well-written, thoughtful posts on such a nice variety of topics.

Kat said...

Mmmmm.....I do LOVE a confident man. I'd say more, but your profile pic keeps distracting me.