Monday, January 9, 2012

To Our Friendly Neighborhood Kat Haters

Oh, were you expecting Kat? Nope, it's me Daunt and I decided to pop in to say something that many of our part time readers may find controversial. Ready?

Kat does not condone cheating.

What!? Blasphemy! Liar! Daunt, look around you, you big fool! That's what this whole blog is about!!

I'll say it again: Kat does not condone cheating.

To our regular readers, this is no surprise at all. I can agree, that yes, maybe on the surface this blog may make cheating sound like a good idea -- seriously, how can you not read about these hot sexual encounters and not want some of that [with your spouse]; but dig below the surface and you'll find something unexpected. Counsel to avoid cheating.

Over the past year I've been consistently amazed at how Kat can write about the various experiences of her life, exciting, comical, mundane, sad or sinful, and make it an engaging read highlighting relatable truths we all face.

I've also learned along the way, while meeting others in the world of cheaters, is that they are like everyone else; just people struggling through life trying to get their needs met. We're all imperfect. We all engage in destructive behavior at times, but hopefully we learn and strive to be better.

C'mon Kat Haters! I dare ya! Go back, avoid the sex posts and see what you find! Ha, yeah that's what I thought. You're all scared of your own shadow; too frightened to end up liking someone you disagree with.

8 comments:

Nicholas said...

And I'd like to add something...this blog encouraged me not to follow through with cheating. Kat's advice on do not start if you have not started and are not ready to live with the consequences if you got caught ressonated deeply with me. I am not willing to live with the consequences if I were to get caught. So I know she does not condone cheating.

I do love the stories though. I can live vicariously through the adventures of others without going through with it. I also know people are here struggling with the same thing I have been struggline with. We all handle that differently, and are in different stages of life, but we are all the same.

So thank you Kat, Cara and Daunt for this blog. Since flirting with the idea of infidelity, and coming to the edge of following through, I decided not to. I even think my marriage is coming back around!

Victoria said...

I totally agree with Nicholas. Reading this blog has also steered me away from cheating, something I let Kat know in a recent email. I loved the New Year's Resolution post; what she wrote was exactly what I'd been thinking lately and I was even more encouraged by her writing.

Like Nicholas I know I wouldn't be able to live with the consequences either...as much as my libido tells me otherwise.

I'll continue to read this blog because of the respect - yes respect! - I have for all the contributors!

Krazy said...

I agree. I don't think she condones cheating. I love her honesty.

Ryan Beaumont said...

Yes I agree. I used to be a cat hater until we got the most beautiful calico and now we have a Maine Coon as well. To think I was always a dog person and hated cats my my. But now I love cats.

Oh wait, you were talking about those crazy Promise Keeper dudes weren't you. You they are crazy!

Well, I do love you Kat!

Take Care,

R

Kat said...

Daunt - You're the best!

Nicholas and Victoria - I'm so glad that you commented! Thank you! It's good to know that I've been able to play a small part in helping you make your decision not to stray. :-)

Krazy - Thanks! Is tehre any other way to be?

Ryan - Very cute.... ;-)

Kat said...

I'd like to clarify something --- Not all of us here at PWK are cheaters. Yes, I am. I can't lie about that. But Cara is in a long term committed relationship, has not cheated and isn't planning on it. During the time Daunt was still living with his wife, he was faithful.

There's more to PWK than meets the eye. Those who are regular readers know that, and I appreciate you more than I can express.

Michael said...

This blog clearly has an intellectual lean to it ... not a "pro cheating" bent. It's all about relationships and how they work, and how they don't work. A very fine read ... always.

Mike

Ms. Inconspicuous said...

I don't think I've met one cheater--not one--who is all, "OMG, cheating is the BEST. If you haven't done it, you should totally do it!"

I don't even know any who would recommend cheating as a rule.

Most people who cheat do so with many reservations and many reasons. They write not about how awesome it is to be a cheater, but how complicated it is to navigate through life with that element.