Random Kat Thoughts on a Sunday Afternoon

It's a lazy Sunday afternoon and I'm lounging on the couch watching Vanilla Sky with my oldest son and pondering many things, some of which can be shared with polite company and most of which cannot. Since I can't share most of these things with anyone at home, you're the lucky ones!

First, I did it.  No, not what you think, although I did do that recently, too, as you know. I'm referring to Google +.  I got an invite and I joined. I haven't figured it out yet, of course, but I've started. I did figure out how to keep my circles from being visible from my profile, which is handy because most of my "friends" don't want to be publicly known. If your want an invite or you want to join one of my circles of buddies, just send me an email and ask.

If you read the post Alone that I wrote in the middle of the night last night, you know that I was thinking of JJ....again.  It's a common thing for me these days. I was thinking of him again this morning, and in between naughty thoughts, it occurred to me that it can't be easy to be a sex blogger's lover. Imagine the pressure. Some of that came though in Raunchy Hotel Sex. The only way to take that pressure away is to either forget about the blogging completely (which is not as easy as you may think) or for the relationship to become about more than sex. Then it's about expressing emotion and sharing ourselves with each other, and the sex is only part of the whole picture.

Interesting how in "normal" relationships, the getting to know each other and developing feelings for each other comes first and the sex follows. When it goes the other way around, things don't go well.

The Cameron Diaz character in Vanilla Sky is speeding through the streets with Tom Cruise in the car, shouting, "You fucked me four times the other day! I swallowed your cum!  That means something!"  Oh, really? See? The sex came first and she thought that it meant something that it didn't. 

But Prowlers often have the sex first (with the exception of the long distance online affairs) and know that it doesn't mean what Cameron Diaz thought it meant.  Once in a while, though, we start to get to know each other and something bigger, more meaningful develops. Sometimes it's a friendship that makes a real difference in our lives.  Sometimes it's something even more. 

The Penelope Cruz character just said to Tom Cruise, "Do you love me?  Because if you don't, I'll have to kill you." What's with all the crazy women in this movie? 

Ok, just so you don't think I'm ignoring you, I will be posting about that conversation with my husband as I promised.  It will be soon now. 

Back to Vanilla Sky.......