I'm taking the liberty of writing an open letter to prowling men on behalf of prowling women everywhere. Ok, I know not everyone is the same, but I think I'm average enough to represent my sisters (Me? Average? Stop laughing, Dauntless). Also, please know that this is not a message for my current honey (who makes none of the mistakes I'm about to mention). This is a message for prowling men in general. If you see yourself in this message, it's time for a change. Here we go...
I'm not your wife. That's really the point, isn't it? Because I'm not your wife, things are more exciting with me. The sex is better - a lot better. You feel comfortable talking to me because I actually listen to you and show some interest in what you have to say. You may have forgotten what it's like to have a woman in your life want you and respect you, but you get that with me. We don't have to argue about money or disciplining the kids or which family we're spending the holidays with. I look at you like you want a woman to look at you and I make you feel like you haven't felt in a long time (yes, it's mutual).
But sometimes you seem to forget that I'm not your wife.
I don't require a lot of attention or maintenance, but don't neglect me or take me for granted. I get that at home.
Attentiveness and control are two different things. Attentiveness is good. I love knowing that you're thinking of me and how you feel about me. Email, text messages, chat sessions are nice. Communication makes me feel special, like you want me in you life. On the other hand, control is bad. I already have one man in my life who tries to track my every movement and control my life and who I talk to. I really don't need or want two.
If you're mad at your wife, please don't take it out on me. If you really feel the need to get that aggression out, leave the harsh words unsaid and give me a nice, hard fucking instead. You'll feel better and I'll enjoy it. It's a win-win.
Your wife may want to plan far into the future, but I really want to focus on today. That doesn't mean that I don't need some planning, though. We both have to re-arrange our lives to make time for each other. Please respect my time as much as I respect yours.
Please also remember that if you can't make time for me, I'll have to move on. Your wife is committed to stay by your side if she doesn't get sex or attention from you for months, but I'm not your wife, remember? I'm not greedy about your time, but any relationship needs time and attention.
If you want something in bed, tell me. I love to help you live out your fantasies. I really do. I'm not going to think you're strange at all. To the contrary, I love that you trust me enough to share your fantasies with me.
Sometimes I just want you to hold me for a while before we have sex . Sometimes I need you to listen to me. Sometimes I want to be your wanton slut and fuck you like a whore. Sometimes I need gentle and passionate love making. Ill let you know what i need, but you have to pay attention. You may have stopped paying attention to these sometimes subtle messages from wife, but if you pay attention and read me right, you'll love what we can do for each other.
I'm not your wife....and I love that.